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Parents Skills Classes for Stronger Family Connections

Parenting is one of the most rewarding roles in life, but it can also be one of the most challenging. Between balancing personal responsibilities, nurturing children, and navigating difficult emotional or behavioral struggles, many caregivers feel overwhelmed and unsure where to turn for guidance. This is where Parents’ Skills Classes can make a profound difference.

These structured, supportive programs provide parents with evidence-based tools to address family conflicts, manage emotional challenges, and create healthier, more balanced relationships with their children and young adults. Instead of focusing on unattainable perfection, the classes offer practical, compassionate strategies grounded in real-life parenting challenges. They combine warmth, validation, and proven therapeutic skills—especially those derived from Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT)—to help parents strengthen their confidence and improve family harmony.

In the following comprehensive guide, we’ll explore why these classes matter, what they include, and how they can transform the way families function together. For those who want to learn more about how DBT works, you can also explore our DBT Skills Classes page for a broader overview of the core methods used.

Why Parenting Support Matters Today

Modern parenting brings unique challenges that previous generations may not have faced in the same way. Many families today are navigating:

  • Rising rates of teen and young adult mental health concerns, such as anxiety, depression, and self-esteem struggles.
  • Increased stressors, from academic pressures to social media influences.
  • Household conflicts that leave both parents and children feeling unheard.
  • Emotional dysregulation—when strong feelings lead to reactive behaviors and communication breakdowns.


Parents often want to help their children but feel stuck, uncertain of how to respond without escalating tension. Traditional approaches—such as relying solely on discipline or “tough love”—can backfire, leaving everyone feeling more disconnected.

Parent support programs, rooted in skill-building and emotional validation, provide families with a healthier alternative. They offer strategies to de-escalate conflict, foster cooperation, and help both parents and children feel seen, respected, and understood. For more insight into specialized approaches, our Adult Skills Classes show how DBT principles can also support parents and caregivers themselves.

What Are Parents’ Skills Classes?

Parent Skills Classes are structured educational and therapeutic programs designed specifically for caregivers who want to strengthen their parenting approach while addressing complex emotional and behavioral dynamics within the family.

Unlike general parenting advice books or online forums, these classes provide a guided, professional, and interactive environment where parents can:

  • Learn and practice evidence-based skills.
  • Connect with other caregivers facing similar challenges.
  • Receive validation for the struggles they encounter daily.
  • Build confidence in their ability to support their child without losing themselves in the process.


The program is skills-based rather than lecture-based. Parents don’t just listen to strategies—they actively practice them, receive feedback, and adapt the tools to their unique family situations.

If you’re curious how these programs evolve beyond the basics, our Graduate DBT Class offers a pathway for continued skill-building once the core tools have been established.

Core Principles and Philosophy

The foundation of Parents Skills Classes is Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT), a treatment model originally developed to help people with severe emotional dysregulation. Over time, DBT principles have been adapted for use in parenting because they directly address the real dilemmas that caregivers face.

The philosophy guiding these classes includes:

  • Validation over judgment: Parents are encouraged to recognize and validate both their own emotions and their child’s experiences, reducing defensiveness and increasing trust.
  • Balance between structure and nurture: Parents learn how to set clear expectations while also providing warmth, flexibility, and compassion.
  • Collaboration, not control: Instead of power struggles, families learn to work together toward shared goals.
  • Realism, not perfectionism: The focus is on making sustainable changes, not achieving flawless parenting.


This balance of structure, kindness, and skillful strategies creates a supportive environment where real growth is possible.

Program Structure: How the Classes Work

The program is typically offered as an 8-week group course, with each session building upon the last. It is divided into three key modules, each addressing a critical aspect of parenting challenges.

Module 1: Stabilization

In this phase, parents learn strategies to stabilize complex dynamics in the home. Key focuses include:

  • Interrupting escalating behavior patterns.
  • Strengthening validation and self-validation.
  • Recognizing when to step back while maintaining safety and boundaries.


The goal is to create a calmer, safer foundation before addressing deeper conflicts.

Module 2: Conflict Resolution and Distress Tolerance

Families often find themselves locked in repetitive cycles of conflict. This module helps parents:

  • Identify and work through seemingly unresolvable disputes.
  • Create common ground between opposing viewpoints.
  • Build distress tolerance—learning how to withstand difficult emotions without reacting impulsively.
  • Reduce fighting against realities they cannot change.


By applying these tools, parents develop greater patience, resilience, and clarity in navigating challenges.

Module 3: Implementation and Advanced Strategies

Once a common plan has been established, parents learn how to implement it effectively. This module teaches:

  • When to listen empathically to difficult emotions versus when to encourage action.
  • Advanced behavioral strategies for shaping healthier patterns.
  • How to work toward shared goals while addressing both safety concerns and broader life responsibilities.


This stage emphasizes consistency, collaboration, and long-term problem-solving.

Key Skills Parents Will Learn

Parents’ Skills Classes go beyond general advice by teaching concrete, actionable skills that can be applied immediately in family life. These include:

  • Mindfulness: Staying present and aware during emotionally charged interactions.
  • Validation: Acknowledging and affirming emotions—even when you disagree with the behavior.
  • Self-Validation: Recognizing your own struggles and responding with compassion rather than criticism.
  • Distress Tolerance: Managing overwhelming emotions without acting on impulse.
  • Emotion Regulation: Identifying, labeling, and managing strong emotions more effectively.
  • Middle Path Parenting: Finding a balance between extremes—such as being overly controlling versus too permissive.
  • Effective Communication: Building collaborative dialogue rather than reactive exchanges.


For parents of adolescents specifically, our Young Adult Classes provide additional resources tailored to the unique challenges of this stage of life.

Real-Life Benefits for Families

The benefits of Parents Skills Classes extend beyond theoretical learning—they ripple into daily family life in transformative ways. Parents often report:

  • A calmer household environment with fewer escalations.
  • Stronger, more cooperative relationships with their children.
  • Greater self-awareness and reduced feelings of guilt or inadequacy.
  • Improved problem-solving strategies that feel realistic and sustainable.
  • A renewed sense of hope and connection within the family.


Even small shifts in parenting approaches can lead to significant changes in how children and young adults respond. Over time, these skills help families cultivate resilience, mutual respect, and emotional safety.

Who Can Benefit From Parents’ Skills Classes?

These programs are designed for a wide range of caregivers, including:

  • Parents of children struggling with emotional regulation or behavioral issues.
  • Caregivers of teens facing anxiety, depression, or conflict at home.
  • Parents of young adults are navigating independence, but still need support.
  • Families seeking to reduce high-conflict dynamics and improve communication.


Whether a child is facing mental health challenges or the household feels caught in cycles of stress, these classes offer structured support and practical solutions.

To explore more about our practice and other supportive services, visit the Oakland DBT Center, where these programs are offered alongside individual therapy and other skills-based classes.

How It Complements DBT and Family Therapy

Parents’ Skills Classes are often part of a broader treatment framework. Many families also participate in individual therapy, DBT programs, or family therapy sessions.

By learning DBT-informed parenting tools, caregivers can better support their child’s therapeutic progress while creating a home environment that reinforces healing and growth. It’s not about replacing therapy—it’s about strengthening the family system so that everyone can thrive.

What to Expect: Class Format and Experience

Each weekly session typically lasts 90–120 minutes and includes:

  • Interactive learning: Discussions, role plays, and practical exercises.
  • Real-world application: Guidance on applying skills at home between sessions.
  • Supportive community: The chance to connect with other parents facing similar struggles.
  • Professional facilitation: Classes are led by licensed mental health professionals experienced in DBT and family dynamics.


Parents leave not only with new insights but with tangible tools they can begin using immediately.

Taking Care of Yourself as a Parent

One of the most critical lessons woven into the program is that parents cannot pour from an empty cup. Self-care is not selfish—it is essential for maintaining the patience, clarity, and compassion needed for parenting.

Classes encourage caregivers to:

  • Build self-awareness around stress triggers.
  • Practice mindfulness and calming strategies.
  • Prioritize rest, connection, and support systems.
  • Release unrealistic standards of “perfect parenting.”


When parents feel more substantial and more grounded, the entire family benefits.

How to Enroll & Next Steps

Parents interested in joining can explore upcoming schedules, fees, and enrollment details through the program’s coordinators. Participation offers not only valuable parenting tools but also a sense of community and shared growth.

Conclusion 

Parenting will always come with challenges, but it doesn’t have to feel isolating or overwhelming. Parent Skills Classes provide the guidance, tools, and support caregivers need to navigate difficulties with compassion and confidence.

By combining structure with warmth and evidence-based skills with realistic expectations, these programs empower families to move beyond cycles of conflict and into patterns of connection, understanding, and resilience.

For additional opportunities to deepen these practices, explore our range of DBT Skills Classes designed for adults, young adults, parents, and graduates. Each program offers unique pathways to help families strengthen their well-being and thrive together.

Frequently Asked Questions

How are Parents’ Skills Classes different from regular parenting classes?

These classes are rooted in DBT and focus on evidence-based strategies for emotional regulation, conflict resolution, and validation—not just discipline or surface-level advice.

Do I need to have prior therapy experience to join?

No. These classes are designed for all caregivers, regardless of prior experience with therapy.

Will I be expected to share personal details?

While classes are interactive, the level of personal disclosure is entirely up to you. The focus is on learning and practicing skills in a supportive space.

How soon can I expect to see changes at home?

Many parents notice shifts in their own approach within the first few weeks, and these often lead to gradual improvements in family dynamics over time.

Can both parents or caregivers attend together?

Yes. In fact, many families find it beneficial when both caregivers participate, as it creates consistency at home.

Rajesh Jagannathan

Rajesh Jagannathan

Rajesh Jagannathan was born in India and earned a B.Tech in Computer Science from IIT, Madras. After spending a few youthful years in the Masters/Ph.D. program at the Ohio State University moved to the Bay Area for work. Since then he has stayed in the Bay Area and worked in tech for the better part of 20+ years. He has been with the center since its inception playing a key advisory role on tech related matters.

He enjoys living in the bay area with his family, exploring the outdoors in California and the world at large. While interests change over time some constants through the years have been travel, cooking, painting and board games. Lately all his spare time has been consumed by pickleball.

David Pepper

David Pepper, MD (Retired)

Dr. Pepper was born in San Francisco and attended UC Berkeley and then Medical and Graduate School in Iowa. Returning to California, he practiced and taught full spectrum Family Medicine with UCSF for 30+ years, working in Fresno, San Francisco and Contra Costa Counties. 1,000 births and 1,000 deaths one could say – with thousands of Families in between… in the ER, Hospital and Outpatient Clinics – always with a focus on Family and Community.
 
He has a long interest in Psychedelics and completed the CPTR program through CIIS in 2023. He is passionate about helping people think about how to craft their second half of life with meaning, including planning for a natural End of Life process that is not over medicalized.  He believes that a well planned End of Life allows people to live well.  More about his work can be found here.  
 
He brings his expertise in clinical assessment, and the tools that support this to working with the Team at Oakland DBT and Mindfulness Center to develop best practices for working with clients seeking expanded state treatment.  He collaborates with his wife who also works with clients in Expanded States.  He enjoys his 4 children, gardening, hiking, and community.
Rochelle

Rochelle Frank, PsyD

Rochelle Frank, PhD is a clinical psychologist in Oakland, CA with over 30 years of experience in both the public and private sectors. Dr. Frank earned her doctorate in clinical psychology at Syracuse University and completed her clinical training at Yale Psychiatric Institute. She specializes in evidence-based transdiagnostic treatment of  complex and co-occurring mood, anxiety, and trauma disorders in adults and adolescents, and related  problems in high-conflict couples and families. 

In addition to her private practice Dr.  Frank is an assistant clinical professor of psychology at the University of California, Berkeley, and also  holds faculty and supervisory appointments at The Wright Institute and the University of California San  Francisco School of Medicine.  She is co-author of The transdiagnostic road map to case formulation and  treatment planning: Practical guidance for clinical decision making (Frank & Davidson, 2014; New Harbinger),  a contributing author to S. G. Hofmann & S. C. Hayes (Eds.), Beyond the DSM (2020, New Harbinger), and  currently serves on the board of directors for the Institute for Better Health.

Dr. Frank has been involved with Oakland DBT and Mindfulness Center since 2012.  She has served as a clinical consultant and focuses on helping the Team bring a transdiagnostic process-based perspective to case formulation and treatment planning, as well as integrating methods from other third-wave cognitive behavioral therapies into the DBT model.  

In addition to enjoying time with her family, Dr.  Frank is an avid golfer, home chef, and a frequent beta-tester of her clinical skills while skiing and mountain biking.

Michael Stanger

Michael Stanger, MD

I am a board-certified psychiatrist practicing in California and Colorado across a range of settings – inpatient, outpatient, emergency and partial hospital, with current affiliations at Contra Costa Regional Medical Center and Boulder Community Health.

I have a particular interest in the therapeutic utility of ketamine to support psychotherapy. I began working with ketamine in 2016, initially in my California private practice where I administered oral and intramuscular doses. I have since continued to support therapist access and to develop understanding around the most effective use of these modality. In related work, I have mentored with the CIIS Center for Psychedelic Therapies and Research and taught sessions with the Polaris Insight Center on ketamine.

My background includes childhood immigration from South Africa to New York, working in the technology industry for several years and then traveling in an unscripted manner to arrive at the awareness that medicine, and ultimately psychiatry would be the path to be helpful to others in an applied way.

Chrysanthe

Chrysanthe Christodoulou

Operations Manager

Chrysanthe is our Operations Manager and one of our in-house Mindfulness Experts. She connects with new clients as they come into the Center, oversees day to day operations and runs special projects.  She is instrumental in supporting the Team by bringing joy, flow and ease.

Chrysanthe studied Meditation, Yoga, and Mindfulness with some of the most respected teachers of our time. She also holds a BS in Economics.  This combination of skills ensures our Center runs efficiently behind the scenes and lends wisdom to our budding Mindfulness Program.

Her local teaching career has spanned the Bay Area and beyond: overseas in Spain, Chile, Greece, and Amsterdam; and locally in San Francisco, Marin, Berkeley, Oakland, and Walnut Creek. Chrysanthe honors the magic in both movement and stillness, stirring energy and witnessing what emerges as everything settles into place. 

When Chrysanthe isn’t handling the business end of the Center or running mindfulness programming, you can find her exploring trails with her wolf pup, finding connection in community, and enjoying the sun and the sea.

Priya Jogia

Priya Jogia

Licensed Clinical Social Worker (LCSW)

​​Priya Jogia is a licensed clinical social worker (LCSW). Since 2013, she has worked in various clinical settings including: community mental health, hospital, and outpatient programs. Priya’s also spent time in Vietnam studying international social work and the relationship between culture, ethnicity, and mental health.

Priya is an active practitioner of mindfulness-based behavioral therapies including DBT and ACT, and has extensive training in CBT. As a DBT therapist, she’s seen the positive impact of using DBT skills in her own life, and is strongly committed to helping clients live meaningful lives that are aligned with their values.

Priya has an interest in perinatal mental health and working with BIPOC populations, and she strives to integrate a social and racial justice lens into her work. While being a therapist has brought a lot of meaning to Priya’s life, she tries not to take herself too seriously, and gets much joy from being a mum, being in nature, and cuddling with her dog.

Jay Indik

Jay Indik

Licensed Clinical Social Worker (LCSW)

Jay brings his compassion, creativity, and equanimity to support each person who seeks therapy.. He believes that what makes each person happy is connected to their deepest sense of what is important. Jay listens for how each client can idiosyncratically transform their suffering into a happier life. As a result of working with Jay folks’ learn to address unwanted behavior, regulate their emotions, recover from individual or cultural trauma, repair relationships, and organize their behavior consistent with their values Jay has intensive training and has practiced the following modalities for decades: DBT, Narrative Therapy, Somatic Experiencing, Sensory Modulation, Psychodynamic Treatment and Expressive Arts Therapies. Jay specializes in working with couples, parents, parent child dyads and young adults, as well as with individuals from mid-life through retirement. Jay’s experience as a theater director, parent, teacher, and executive combined with his knowledge of research validated treatments allows him to best relate and serve each individual.

Jay has two adult children (one daughter, one non-binary), a “Real Dads Love Trans kids” t-shirt, and one amazing grandchild he watches one day a week.

Ari Tavano

Ariana Tavano

Licensed Clinical Social Worker (LCSW)

Ari Tavano is a licensed clinical social worker (LCSW). She has worked in an array of clinical settings for over ten years, and utilizes the diversity of her experience to foster a therapeutic frame rooted in curiosity and empathic regard. She specializes in working with those looking to cultivate self-growth, increase interpersonal efficacy, and develop an affirming relationship with their internal worlds.

Ari extends a humanistic approach to her work by nourishing the whole self – according to one’s intersectionality and inherent wisdom. She is trained in DBT and other treatment modalities, including CBT, Existentialism, and Trauma Theory. She harmonizes the concepts of behaviorism and intuitiveness of relational healing, with opportunities to explore psychedelics and expanded-state work.

Ari invites you to build capacity for both processing and playfulness. She prioritizes humor and is often found in the ocean, on the dance floor, and imagining her next adventure. Ari has also worked as a licensed public school teacher in Hawai’i and documentary photographer in South Africa. She is committed to equity, inclusion, and the pursuit of social justice.

Alyson Barry

Alyson Barry, PhD

Licensed Clinical Psychologist

Alyson Barry is a licensed clinical psychologist (PhD). Since 2005, she’s gained experience in diverse areas of practice, including inpatient hospitals, intensive outpatient programs, community mental health, and private practice. Alyson came to DBT in 2013 through her own yoga and meditation practice, which led her to seek additional training in mindfulness-based therapies. Drawn to work with people who’ve experienced developmental trauma, she begins by addressing what’s happening in the present, helping her clients develop practical skills that fundamentally improve how they interact with themselves and the world around them. As a result of this work, this can over time, set the stage for healing the older wounds. She believes in a collaborative and consent-based treatment approach, working to ensure that clients understand and are in agreement with any diagnosis or therapeutic technique. She hopes that this transparency can help to create an environment of respect for her clients’ choice, autonomy, and knowledge of themselves. She is also a big believer in bringing humor and irreverence into therapy. In her free time, Alyson enjoys snorkeling, hanging out with her cat, and spending time with friends. Alyson is available to work via telehealth with clients in California, Colorado, and Florida.
Heather Macbeth

Heather Macbeth

Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist (MFT)

Heather co-founded the Oakland DBT & Mindfulness Center in 2012. She is a licensed MFT. She offers a relational, somatic, experiential and humanistic approach to her work and is committed to relieving psychological suffering. Her style is both compassionate and gentle as well as directive and aims to be supportive of each person’s unique needs. Her work focuses on emotion regulation, changing persistent cycles of self-blame, listening more closely to intuitive knowing and increasing self compassion. She is committed and dedicated to helping her clients have a life where they can find themselves thrive vs. just survive. Working as a therapist, clinical supervisor, skills group and workshop facilitator has brought her a lot of joy. In addition to a private practice setting she has worked in community mental health organizations with disenfranchised youth and families and in public schools as a Behavioral Specialist. Heather works with adults and teens. She is intensively trained in DBT and other treatment modalities such as; Gestalt, Psychodynamic, MBSR, ands Expressive Arts. She is certified in EAP (Equine-assisted psychotherapy) and offers equine-facilitated learning workshops in the Bay Area. Additionally, she has received her training in Ketamine Assisted Psychotherapy through the Polaris Insight Center in San Francisco and is inspired by the potential healing benefits of expanded states of consciousness work.

In her free time, and in ideal worlds, she is exploring jungles, hot springs, beaches, hanging out with animals (large and small), enjoying good food, travel and most importantly time with loved ones.

Christine Benvenuto

Christine Benvenuto

Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist (MFT)

Christine is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and the co-founder and Executive Director of the Oakland DBT and Mindfulness Center. She brings over 25 years of experience in mental health to her work, with a background in working with people in all walks of life in residential, outpatient and home based settings. A systems thinker, valuing sustaining relationships, she works with individuals, couples and groups, with a strong belief that small shifts can create dynamic changes.

She blends a lifetime of interest and practice in somatics, meditation, embodiment, psychedelics and the arts with a passion for social justice, nature and thriving ecosystems. Her mentors are psychologically savvy, center co-existence, value differences and maintain a sense of humor.

Her professional training spans from depth oriented, expanded state and attachment based to behavioral styles of treatment. She co-creates a therapeutic container that feels collaborative, warm, dynamic, thoughtful and deeply resonant.

She works with individuals, couples and groups, offering ongoing weekly therapy, Ketamine-Assisted Psychotherapy and Consultation.

Along side of her professional life, Christine is grateful for her extended web of relationships as daughter, sister, wife, friend, step-mom and community connector.

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