Nurturing self as a caretaker
Taking care of others, whether you are a mother (especially of young children), or a caretaker to someone who is sick, or elderly can be demanding emotionally and physically. Nobody likes being stressed, but mothers, in particular, can have a hard time doing anything about it. They can feel overwhelmed, but think that their needs “should” come after whomever they are taking care of. Taking care of a young child, or children, is so primal that mothers forget to pay attention to their own needs, or many women learn when they are raised that they should put others needs before them.
But, we all know when we really think about it, that if we don’t take care of ourselves then the stress impacts all those around us. Don’t we? In DBT we talk a lot about the impact of stress on emotions, here are some ways to help regulate.
Even in the midst of a chaotic day when it may feel as if there is not way to get some relief, there is always something that can be done to lower stress levels, even for a moment.
Here are some ideas:
Repeating your favorite mantra, story or prayer
Drinking a large glass of water
Paying attention to breath, even if just for a moment
Stretch, doing a yoga pose
Sipping hot tea
Splashing cold water on the face
Taking 3-6, or more long breaths, concentrating on making the exhalation a bit longer than the inhalation
If possible, going for walk
Putting on soothing music
Asking for help when possible and taking breaks
Being sure to eat something substantial and nutritious
And, most importantly, remembering that caring after your stress level will be the best caretaking you can offer both to yourself and others!